POLYAMOROUS WEDDING CEREMONY

My first ever Polyamorous Wedding Ceremony

I’ve waited a long time to create this blog and to share these images by Amie Seal Photography. I’M SO EXCITED! This polyamorous wedding ceremony was a woodland wedding ceremony like no other and not only because it was one for a Queer couple in a polyamorous constellation but because it was a beautiful ceremony in a perfect outdoors ceremony space. Everyone was there for this forest wedding and everyone loved it. Come with me on a journey into the woods for the polyamorous wedding ceremony at the TWO WOODS ESTATE.

Polyamorous wedding ceremony in a woodland setting. Two people wearing dark blue suits are stood opposite each other. Both are white and their gender is unclear. They are laughing. Behind is a gazebo with burnt orange and dark blue bunting. The gazebo has dried leaves as it is Autumn. In between the couple is a woman with pink and blonde hair holding a folder and reading their story.

It was honestly one of the most beautiful of many beautiful experiences in my career! Read on to find out more about this gorgeous Queer wedding in an ancient forest.

A beautiful photo of a forest. The scale of the forest makes the gazebo and the three characters in front of it look dwarfed. They are happy. Two are wearing blue suits. in the middle and woman with pink hair is reading out from a folder.

What is a Polyamorous Wedding Ceremony?

Polyamorous constellations and wedding ceremonies How does that work exactly? The first thing I discovered when I was invited to create a ceremony for 2 people who were polyamorous? A polyamorous wedding ceremony doesn’t necessarily have to celebrate all of the different configurations of the constellation all at once.
Polyamorous relationships come in many different shapes and sizes and can celebrate any number of relationships.
A polyamorous wedding ceremony and the law This wedding couple had signed documents with a registrar to make their particular relationship legal. They were essentially 2 people getting married by law in a Register Office. I created a meaningful ceremony to celebrate their love. In this regard it is no different to any other wedding ceremony I create as the legalities took place separately. HOWEVER…In this ceremony I had the creative freedom to create a ceremony which honoured, involved and acknowledged the third member of their constellation. Currently more than 2 people cannot get legally married as the UK legal system is not yet set up to accomodate these increasingly popular configurations.
This particular polyamorous wedding ceremony celebrated 2 AFAB individuals (assigned female at birth) people one of whom is Non-Binary and their girlfriend. If the relationship of more than 2 people is being celebrated could be considered a Commitment Ceremony.

A gazebo in a forest with autumn leaves on top. Blue and burnt orange bunting hangs from the front. There are two people getting married. They are wearing suits. We can see the backs of the heads of the guests

What does a Polyamorous Wedding Ceremony Feel like?

Three people in a black and white photograph taken at a wedding under a gazebo with bunting along the front. Two people are looking at each other and the one in the middle is reading. They are all queer presenting.

A Polyamorous Wedding Ceremony is all about Love.

Polyamory is far from ‘new’ but celebrating it in 2024 in this way with an acutal polyamorous wedding ceremony is. Celebrating love in new ways in ancient places feels really special. Immediately after the wedding ceremony in this ancient redwood forest this is how I felt as their Wedding Celebrant. There was a magic about the place and the occasion of this ceremony that I will never forget and will always treasure.

When I worked on this ceremony I was introduced to the concept of ‘compersion’ and in fact this is a photograph of one of the thruple reading her speech all about the idea of generosity of love and the joy of the love of others.

Compersion is our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It is the sympathetic joy we feel for somebody else, even when their positive experience does not involve or benefit us directly. Thus, compersion can be thought of as the opposite of jealousy and possessiveness.

Dr Marie Thouin PhD

Compersion, A Radical Love Phenomenon

Involving different members of a polycule or constellation is very easy to do. All you have to do is think in terms of ‘community’ and ‘family’ and there is no complication there really.

At this wedding there was a tradition of singing in the family and one of the Mum’s and an auntie sang a personalised song.

Two women in their sixties are singing. One is wearing a bright pink satin dress and has blonde hair and the other has purple hair.

It was very affecting witnessing a new way of doing weddings in such an ancient space and in an ancient way…because communities outdoors in forests are about as ancient as it gets!

two hands being bound together using blue and burnt orange cords. The people are wearing blue jackets.

A handfasting ceremony is a really lovely way to involve the whole community.

A beautiful autumn redwood forest. We are looking through some gates into the forest aisle

A public declaration of any love is so important to do in front of all your community. Committing to each other in front of witnesses is special and formative. It is especially important perhaps if you are Queer and Poly. There was great acceptance at this wedding ceremony from all kinds of different people of all ages and beliefs.

A couple both in navy blue suits are walking down an aisle in a forest. The gathering are turning to greet them. One of the group is wearing a rainbow scarf. Another is dressed in bright pink. The forest is awe inspiring in its height and grandeur

A WEDDING CELEBRANT AT A POLYAMOROUS WEDDING CEREMONY

What Does a Wedding Celebrant do at a wedding ceremony for Polyamorous people?

A wedding celebrant is someone who celebrates relationships and creates ceremonies to help you to publicly or privately declare you commitment to those relationships .

But it doesn’t stop there, we can bring all our years of experience, expertise and resources to help you to find the right shape for your ceremony, the right words and the right music.

Rituals and songs, preparing the space, greeting your guests all come under the umbrella of what we do.

A string of polaroid photographs hung between trees in an ancient forest.

Why Hire a Professional Wedding Celebrant?

If you are happy cutting your own hair with blunt scissors or building your own house you might well ask this question.

Jess May Celebrant laughing and holding her folder in a gazebo in a forest. She is at a wedding in a forest and the gazebo has orange and blue bunting. She is wearing a green velvet suit which is the same colour as the forest behind her. She has pink hair which is vibrant in the green forest.

But personally I can see no reason why anyone would try to create a ceremony without the unique expertise of an experienced Celebrant. Celebrants are highly skilled and we have honed our craft over years and years of successful ceremonial work.

Jess May celebrant with pink hair holding a folder in front of a queer couple wearing suits.

Songs, preparing the space, greeting your guests all come under the umbrella of what we do. We delight in telling your story, the magic, the fun and the downright silly.

A wedding group at the front of the ceremony. Everyone is laughing. There are 6 people. They are all white and different ages. They are under a gazebo in a forest and it has gold and blue bunting. In the centre is a couple with blue suits, one is non-binary. in the centre is a wedding celebrant with pink hair. on either side are the Mother's of the wedding couple, one is smiling and the other looks pensive.

Wedding Celebrants are Artists and Poets we create something real from your visions. We make you laugh, cry, sing and sigh…it is what we are for. Celebrating the love of two people and their families and friends is a wonderful thing for a Celebrant. Celebrating the love of three, four or more in their communities is even better!

Wedding ceremony in a woodland. People of all ages are engaged with the ceremony

I love the intergenerational nature of community wedding ceremonies like these.

All ages and all genders are welcomed, cherished and loved for the treasure they are.

A person in a blue suit holding a piece of paper and reading is standing under a gazebo in an autumnal light. There is bunting and a lantern. Two people are standing to the front of this person.

Creating a ceremony without a Celebrant is do-able but it won’t have the flair and energy that comes with a true professional who loves their work.

We love our work and for me personally the most important thing about my work and the ceremonies I create is the quality of the relationships we develop together. This enables me to SEE YOU, HEAR YOU & GET YOU in ways that no AI tool ever could!

Black and white image of a three people laughing under a gazebo with bunting outside in a forest. Two are getting married and the third is marrying them.

My first Polyamorous Wedding Ceremony

I loved my first polyamorous wedding so much. I loved everything about it. The thing I loved most of all was that we were so well matched and we found it so easy to create together.

Any wedding ceremony is a beautiful thing, and a polyamorous one is too. What matters the most is that you get the right person to be your Celebrant and that means making sure that we’re a match.

I would love to hear from you whether you are polyamorous or not. Contact me today to discuss how we can work together to make your glorious ideas a reality.

A beautiful happy scene in nature at a woodland wedding. The whole wedding party is assembled in a line in a redwood forest for a Queer Polyamorous couple. People are wearing lots of bright colours and look dwarfed by the enormous redwood trees. Everyone is being playful for the camera.

jess may celebrant with a folder and pink hair and wearing a green velvet suit and gazing into the forest. She is whistful and happy looking on with a look of contentment and satisfaction.

Contact me with your questions around arranging your wedding and let’s see if we are a good fit.

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Wedding Celebrant for Brighton & LONDON; creating Wedding ceremonies for people who know who they are…